Loving Your Life.
To love and appreciate life, we have to feel and be at our best. Some days are better than others when we are more motivated, centered and experience things flowing our way. Other days, we need a little help. Here are some ideas to make a difference:
Sleep. Sweet Sleep.
Too many of us have a hard time falling asleep and staying asleep. Insomnia is the cause of many health problems in addition to making it impossible to focus, be productive and harmonious in our relationships. Here are a few ideas on how to break the wicked cycle.
- Use noise cancelling headphones or traditional ear plugs to block out noise that is keeping you awake. Make sure to get the highest number you can find online or in your drugstore.
- Turn off electronics at least an hour before you get into bed. Reading makes many people fall asleep, but try not to read work related materials close to bedtime. Your mind may become too activated and have a hard time shutting down.
- If your thoughts are always racing with what to do next, keep paper and pen by your bed. Write things down and you may find once it is on paper, you can relax knowing you don't have to remember it.
- Check the temperature in your bedroom. Many times if it is too hot or muggy indoors, it will keep you awake, even if you don't consciously feel too warm.
- Whenever you wake up and can't fall back asleep, drink a glass of water. Being dehydrated can be the guilty culprit.
Working with clients at home and at work, I consistently hear the same dilemmas that come up for all of us. We often share the same problems, challenges and choices, but don't always feel comfortable exposing ourselves. My column here is to share what to do when these things come up.
Got a question or a dilemma that is keeping you stuck? Email me at: Randi@RandiBale.com (all posted letters will be kept in the strictest of confidence).
I know I need to de-clutter and get organized, but I can't seem to get my family on board. I have always had a hard time getting organized, and now whatever I do, my kids sabotage my efforts. What do i do?
Keeping the home organized and respecting each other's space starts with the parents. Parents need to set limits and communicate clear expectations with the children. Them leaving their belongings all over the house may demonstrate that they do not value their things or your house. Setting an example to your children and then working together to make the home a place you can all thrive in is of vital importance. It will not only help you short term, but will help your children grow into efficient, organized adults who are able to set priorities and keep their promises to others.
In life, there are times we need to downsize. To have less stress, follow this guide to make it easier:
Step One: Declutter. Before you can move forward, you must slim down your possessions to what you need (and love) at this juncture in your life. Change your energy by surrounding yourself with things that inspire you and bring you joy. Times change, our lives change, and we need to change with it. Don't remain stuck - ask yourself "Does it fit into my space and new lifestyle?" often.
Step Two: Once you declutter, decide who can benefit from things that no longer suit you. You can gift your purged possessions to family members or close friends, or you can donate to your favorite charity. You may want to also have an Open House to sell your items, or take your belongings to a local consignment shop for extra cash.
Step Three: Trash the rest, but don't feel guilty about it. It may be hard to face, but many times what we have enjoyed will be hard to sell (or give) to others. Our now old, worn personal items have lived their lifespan, and it's time to release. Don't worry - many of my clients tell me that they feel they've lost twenty pounds when they do!!
Step Four: Pack what you are taking with you. You can do this in stages, starting with things that you can live without using until you move. This will make it easier as time creeps up on you. To make things even easier, label everything. This will give you (and your movers) a much easier time. Consider color coding your markings so you can easily place the right items in the right rooms at your new residence for easy, seamless unpacking.
Step Five: Keep a "moving binder" and checklist updated. This should include your estimates, receipts, inventory of what you are taking with you, and a copy of your change of address forms that you do in person or online. Also keep record of the organizations you told of your move (banks, brokerage firms, your employers' human resources department, magazine and newspapers, credit cards, insurance companies, utility companies, medical records, etc.). Having a list on paper (or computer) alleviates our need to remember, and our minds can rest easier.
Step Six: Remember, this is a new chapter in your life. Allow it to be a time of joy and for new memories and let the new positive energy in!