Don’t Let Anyone (or Anything) Steal Your Sunsets.

It can be overwhelming to try to make change, but once you make a commitment to stick to it no matter how hard it is and a promise to yourself that no matter how many people are pulling you off course or how many distractions are in your life all the time, you are almost there. 

To further my point, I’d like to share a personal experience I had in the form of a dream and the affect it had on me for many years afterwards. 

I was sitting at the edge of a dock by myself watching and being mesmerized by the most AMAZING sunset with colors I’ve never seen. I was staring into the sky completely taken away by the sheer beauty of it all, allowing the experience to take my breath away. It felt like a spiritual experience and a wondrous gift from the universe. Then suddenly, I heard whispering to the left of me. Although I hated to turn away, I went against my instincts and did it anyway. I saw shadows of people and because I wasn’t sure of what they were doing, I took my focus away from the sunset to see what was happening in case they were planning something that I “needed to know about.” 

It turned out to be nothing, so I looked back to the sun ready to take in the sheer magnificence of it all once again, but this time the sunset was gone and I lost the moment. When I awoke I took this as a huge lesson to stay focused on the beauty, the promise and the splendor of what can be. I’ve since cut out a picture that most resembled the sunset in my dream and posted it on my wall across from my desk so I can always be reminded not to lose moments. I hope for you a life filled with many ongoing moments that will take your breath away, and you stay the course so you don’t lose any of them by looking away.

Take Time to Play.

Many of us work more hours then we’d like to and become exhausted, stressed and depleted by day’s end. We then get up the next day and do it all over again without making as much progress as we'd like. By the end of the week we can barely catch our breath but attempt to tackle everything we couldn’t manage to get done during the week. Bombarded and overwhelmed is not a happy or healthy state of being.

Why do we keep doing this?  Many times we are trying to better secure our future or put away money for monumental occasions.  We may even be choosing to aspire for more stuff, more accolades or a more esteemed lifestyle. Being in this cycle, however, actually causes us to forget why we keep doing this or who we are.   

What I suggest is to get ON the merry-go-round and enjoy playing! Enjoy everything you possibly can. Tune into your desires, your dreams, and your “oh, I’d love to’s”.   Since you will not be so preoccupied, this will give you the ability to better connect with people in your life, get more done, become more focused on what you want. Taking a brain break to be able to process information is a necessary step.

Allow your work, your life and your things to serve you, your dreams and your purpose. There are many paths to get to your destination. You just need to pause long enough to see what that destination is, make a plan, and then take action!

De-Clutter Space and Mind.

When we have too much stuff in our surroundings, it can create an overload of clutter in our heads. As a result, we can become overwhelmed, unable to sort things out and then become so defeated, we fail to get things done at all that will help us be successful at work and at home. 

Although it is proven to be incredibly liberating, one of the hardest things to do is to declutter. We have to take a moment to assess what we have surrounded ourselves with and then make the decision to either make good use of it or release it. This is hard because we can get stuck thinking we will find a use for things we have not used or convince ourselves it has “potential.” It becomes even more challenging when we are giving something up without having used it as much as we might gave liked after paying a lot of money for it. Remind yourself, it doesn’t matter how much it cost if it sits out of sight and is not something that is going to be of use to you. 

If you are still feeling unsure, ask yourself the following questions: 

  1. How realistic is it that I am going to really use this?
  2. How does having this around me, really make me feel? 
  3. Is this going to serve who I am in my current stage of life and/or business? 

These questions will remind us that we only have so much space in our lives for “things.” It’s really the experiences that count.

Say Yes.

I’m always inspired by one of my favorite quotes by Google’s Eric Schmidt:

“Say yes to invitations to a new country, say yes to meet new friends, say yes to learning a new language, picking up a new sport. Yes is how you get your first job, and your next job. Yes is how you find your spouse, and even your kids.”

He goes on to say the following: 

“Even if is a bit edgy, a bit out of your comfort zone, saying yes means that you will do something new, meet someone new, and make a difference in your life, and likely in others’ lives as well.  Yes lets you stand out in a crowd, to be the optimist, to stay positive, to be the one everyone comes to for help, for advice, or just for fun. Yes is what keeps us all young. Yes is a tiny word that can do big things. Say it often.”

How many times do you say yes? Yes to new opportunities, to change? Or is your default saying no because you think it’s prudent, safe or even expected by others? Is being vulnerable too risky or does it keep you stuck in doing things as you always have, although you know there must be a better way? Because the word no is many times fueled by fear, re-think what it could be if you said yes. What kind of experiences, opportunities, growing and sharing could you have?

Saying yes should start with your truth. This leads to your expansion and the birth of ideas, connections and life, as opposed to contraction which diminishes success, businesses and personal growth. It seems every great invention started with someone expanding their mind, their imagination, their guts...saying "yes."

Taking chances and making changes while being willing to grow, allows us to re-coup, survive and thrive. As I always say, it's a matter of having the vision, making the plan and then taking action...and see what doors open in your life and your business.

I hope this message brings you focus, clarity and the courage to say "YES!" Go for got this.